I was summarizing my night at the karaoke bar to a friend of mine.
I told him about a friend that was trying to play "love connector". Truth be told, I was appreciative of his efforts, for he just wanted to see me happy(er). Somewhere in my head, however, I thought there was no point, but I let him play his role. When it was brought to my attention that both people he whispered to (on my behalf) said that I "wasn't their type", I reminded myself and my friend that I told him he did not have to say or do ANYTHING. I was pissed, to say the least. Men definitely can't handle when their egos take a blow. Maybe my low expectations caused my own denial (but I don't feel like debating myself right now).
Anyways...after I told this to my other friend, here's how the convo went:
Him: "Yeah, rejection is hard."
Me: "And I avoid rejection by staying 'shy'."
Him: "It's a part of life, though."
Me: "I know. I'm just not strong enough to bear it right now. Or maybe, I just don't want to."
After I texted this, I was taken aback at what I'd said. I think I've gotten to the bottom of my recent wuss moments. Avoiding rejection...staying safe...it appears that my holding back is holding me back...not just on the dating scene, but with everything else I have going on. The fix for this problem is a work-in-progress. To be continued...
Hey I am shy, you know rejection is part of life... if you don't try for the things you LOVE AND WANT... you will have a plan and boring life. if you put you self out there (which can be hard) you will find THAT LIFE IS EXCITING AND FUN, even with a rejection or two in there. (they still hurt) but you learn and grow from them and become a better person :)
ReplyDeleteYeah, rejection can be a bitch, especially when you aren't actively pursuing your person of interest. However, as Rick stated, it's a part of life. Sometimes rejcections are blessings in disguise
ReplyDeleteI think you're no more shy than I am. I truly believe somewhere inside of you is the axe that will break this shell.I believe when you're truly ready to face and move forward from this you will!! You have the answer my man, move forward and know that it's not easy, you will be faced with rejection, but you have to know who you are and believe in that. Just because a person says you're not my type or rejects you...consider them not what you need and be thankful, you're a God fearing man, go get what's yours, and stop letting the enemy (yourself) hold you back!
ReplyDeleteThere have been times when I've gotten rejected several times in one night. It's always worth it though when I finally get the win. Each rejection is a tiny victory just for being confident enough to put yourself out there.
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