I had come to hate this day, and resent the lovers that celebrated it; the customers that went all out to spoil the boos they love. Manning the register, I smiled genuinely because that's what I should do. Part of me just wanted one opportunity to spoil someone intimately. Or have the notion returned. I'm a giver. Sometimes, I give to a fault - especially sometimes to folk that weren't/aren't planning on giving back to me. On top of that, I was stupid to believe that my giving to them would change those plans. Just stupid.
But last year, I did that. There was someone I just wanted to show some love to. So there was a teddy bear I saw them looking at one day. I bought it and I think they liked it!
LOL, wasn't that corny of me? Yeah, I bought myself a Valentine's gift. And now I see the significance of that decision. It's good to love yourself. Best feeling in the world actually! But I had been hell spent for the longest to have someone love me back, that I neglected the most important person in my life..me. So if you do or don't have a Valentine this year, don't forget to show some love to yourself. You'll feel all warm and snugly inside...LOL just a thought..
I totally agree dude! and by no means is there anything wrong or cheesy with showing yourself some love once in a while, if you ask me more people would have better results in their love loves if they just stopped and took the time out to love themselves more, rather then trying so hard to find it in others.... Valentines is just another day in my book, I mean Valentine or no Valentine, I don't need a day to validate me and my feelings and neither should anyone else, so well said my dude!
ReplyDeleteHow is it that we define love (giving or recieving) from external sources (ppl, their actions, their perceptions, commercialization, etc)? My goodness, do we not dare to look and draw from within anymore? I believe love starts and comes back to us. Love is cyclic; it has no end. We were never created with an external assignment TO LOVE, we were already CREATED LOVERS...having all-encompassing love embedded in us to share. It's time that we unlearn all the things that we've been conditioned to believe about LOVE & uncover the very core of who we really are. The deepest love begins there. Let the manifestation begin! Thanks so much royalbigboi for the post. I'll never stop loving you!
ReplyDeleteYes, its very important to love yourself, and do things for you. Valentines Day is nothing but another marketing holiday to sell jewelry, roses, candy, and Hallmark cards...I wouldn't be bothered by all that other stuff...If you are with someone special you are supposed to show them love any day you choose, not just on V-day...its not that serious bro much respect.
ReplyDeleteAwww dude that was not corny at all! It's important to love yourself regardless if you are involved in a relationship or now. Yea, Valentines Day is a day meant for lovers just by the socially-accepted idea and by default but love for yourself should always come first.
ReplyDeleteSelf love is the best love one can have. Not corny at all. I'm sure that Teddy Bear will grow to mean so much to you in the coming weeks, months, and years.
ReplyDeleteThis is the core truth. People tend to get extremely wrapped up in this day, and in most of this country's holidays, and lose sight of loving and appreciating themselves, even when it's not Valentine's Day. Aside from the "tradition" of buying your lover gifts/candy/etc., I believe that there's indeed that sense that people are soooooooo afraid of being alone to the point where their "spoiling" habits go into overdrive that particular Feb. 14th day each year. This further clouds them from a good dose of self-reflection. However, the weird (and also re-assuring) thing is that once a person really and truely loves and accepts who they are completely, and feel comfortable in their own skin, that "lonely" fear dissipates and goes away. As a Christian (and somebody who has indeed struggled with self-acceptance, as well as the whole lovey-dovey, affairs-of-the-heart experience...which i still cringe talking about ,lol) I can definitely testify that true self-love and acceptance is directly tied to one's faith and love of the Father above. For me, my faith and years of prayer has allowed God to show me extraordinary things (various things, various situations...each ones very positive and amazing)...through me.... that not only reinforced my faith, but made me love myself for who I am, and all the qualities and unique characteristics I do possess. This has made me take notice of the unique characteristics and qualities in others, and to embrace them as well. Didn't mean to go off into a sermon tangent, lol, but self-love is definitely crucial and reflects a very strong faith.
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